Hi, my name is Edie and this is my friend Emily and we are recovering good girls.
It’s sounds so quaint and harmless but my good girl nearly destroyed my life.
Emily has done a very brave and dangerous thing . She has exposed the good girl in us all—-and with wit and kindness, has helped us to see the damage that the she is wreaking in our lives.
I wish I had found this grace when I was 15 and the ‘do-good’ demons were wrestling me to the ground. I struggled with this book because it brought back painful memories. (The darker the room, the harsher the light usually seems.) My good girl is all grown up now and is smarter and craftier than ever.
She’s driven by all the wrong reasons to do all manner of ‘good things’ and when she’s been slighted in the least, she makes sure that everyone knows how hard she’s worked to keep this house of cards from falling—doing it all with her best, self-serving, martyrdom tactics. Down deep, she wonders if grace is just too cheap and if unconditional love isn’t a spiritual pipe dream.
Emily leads us to the foot of the Cross, where all sinners must go; for there, Christ exchanges our try-hard life for His perfect beautiful life and our exhausted good girl facade for His true peace and rest.
Her book will challenge your status quo as she brings to light the grave danger that lingers near a performance driven life.
Your good girl will be quaking in her boots.
My favorite quote?
“Good girls live obediently but they do not know the mystery.”
Grace, my friends, is a sacred mystery. And you can’t do one thing to earn it.
It is given to you freely by your Father without your effort or striving.
He has come to your rescue with life-giving mercy.
GRACE has come!
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Thank you, beautiful Emily, for your courageous truth-telling. I am so privileged to call you friend.
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I just so happen to have an extra copy of Emily’s book so if you’ll leave a comment on this post, I’ll pick a giveaway winner soon.
This is one you’ll want to read for yourself!
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I’m an Amazon Affiliate so if all 5,000 of y’all buy the book from this click, I’ll make enough for a Starbucks coffee!
I am so excited to read this book!
Wow…this book sounds really cool. Thanks for sharing!
I’m in daily need of that grace. Emily’s book sounds like something I should read.
Grace…I’m so thankful for God’s daily gift of grace that covers me!
Oh! please pick me!!!
I think I need to read this book.
I have Emily’s book and keep getting it out to reread one thing or another. Your review is spot on, Edie.
I’d love to gift this book to my “good girl” friend.
Sounds like a must read for this year!
I want to read it!!!
Sounds like a must read! Pick me. 🙂
You just beautifully described the emotional wresting I have with God during seasons of growth and difficulty.
Wow, this book sounds fantastic – I’d love to win it! Excited to read it.
This has been on my wishlist…so I’d love to win a copy!
oh… I need this. Thanks Edie. Always on time.
This sounds like a book I should read!
Sounds great. Sounds like something I really need to read NOW. Pronto. Stat.
I would absolutely love the chance to win this book!
This good girl would love all over this book! Dog-eared pages, pink highlighted passages and of course chocolate smudged finger prints are necessary when consuming Truth.
I’ve heard of this book and wanted to read it.
thanks Edie! this book looks great.
thanks for sharing
Sounds like a wonderful book. I would love to read it and pass it on to friends.
I read about this book a while back and I’ve been wanting to read it since. I know it would be great! Thanks!
Edie, thank you for the reminder about this book. I have been meaning to get to it, now I HAVE to get to it. Thanks!
Well said, Edie! I’m reading this amazing book right now and couldn’t agree more. I want to buy it (in love) for all the “good girls” I know!
I would love to read Emily’s book! I checked our library system just last week to see if it happened to be in the system so I could read it; alas it was not.
what you wrote above, Edie, couldn’t have come on a better day. it’s been one of those days with most of the feelings you described above. i definitely want and need to read this book. thanks for the recommendation!
ohh! i’ve SO wanted to read this! hope my name gets chosen!! Thanks for hosting this Edie! -renee
This book has been on my to-read list since it came out. I’d love to win. I’m a recovering good-girl, too.
I’m not sure I’m understanding this entire post. I’m gonna reread and try again. Maybe I better read the book cause I’m already lost. :/
I love that you’ll get a whole starbucks coffee if all 5,000 of us buy the book. 🙂 hilarious.
ever so grateful for his grace that I couldn’t earn if I tried my very hardest.
I have my copy of her book, so if my comment gets picked, please pass it to another friend who also needs it. 🙂
I would so love to win this book!!! Sounds like a book I would read over and over and share with friends.
I’d love to read that book! It sounds delightful 🙂
what a sweet surprise to see this tonight. Edie? Your words, honesty, kindred spirit? I just can’t tell you what it all means. Thank you for writing this post, for sharing the book, for reminding even me – of the boundless, corner-less, mysterious grace of our God. And if 5000 people buy the book through your affiliate? I’ll buy you TWO cups of coffee 😉
I have had this book on my list of reads since the Nester began sharing her feels of pride of her lovely sister’s book….I would love to win it…..
Andrea
AndeM1@hotmail.com
Grace is such a great thing to strive for….when is does happen it is wonderful….blessings abound when surrounded by grace….I would love to read this book….It is the perfect word for you….
Thanks for sharing Edie. I would love to read this book.
This book sounds excellent! I would love to be the lucky winner. 🙂 Thanks for bringing it to my attention!
I think this is something all of us could use.
This has been on my to-read list since before it came out! I’d love to win a copy! Thanks for the opportunity.
Whether we were good girls all the time or not, most of us ….especially 40 and up grew up in a very legalistic environment.
As an adult, it still has taken much time and many prayers to “break out” of the whole “good girl” or trying always to please and be the “best girl”! I think many of us “southern” girls still deep down have expectations of ourselves and others that lead us to forget about grace. Can’t wait to read this book!
Yes! I would love to read this!
this is a LIFE CHANGING book. have read it and reread it….awesome.
I would love to read this book! It sounds perfect for me.
What an intriguing message… it is difficult to grasp, the idea of accepting unearned, undeserved Grace in a world where performance evaluations kind of rule. It’s there, we know it, but it’s so counter-intuitive to accept it.
Thanks for the intro to her book! I’d love to win it but will probably end up buying it anyway. Would give the extra copy to a friend of mine. xo
Will be getting this book one way or the other…if I win it, what a blessing, if not I will buy it….can’t wait to read it…
I would love to win her book, I really like her blog too!
Oh gosh Ive had this on my Amazon wishlist for ages now. Id love to win a copy and get started reading it.
I would love to read this. Hope you are doing well,Edie.
Guilty……..of being a good girl! Learning everyday more and more about the depths of grace.
Sounds like a book worth reading
Hmmm, I’m intrigued. Not sure I understand the premise, but sounds like it might be a great book club book!
Hi – this sounds like a great book. I am in a season where I am LOVING mystery, but it hasn’t always been this way. It is freeing, isn’t it, to let God be God and not have to be all-perfect-and-figured-out?!
I’m recovering, too…and since 2011, God has been so good to show me the mystery. He is awesome and I will never be the same!
Just bought my snook copy! Cant wait to read it sis!
Oh, I’m *SUCH* a good girl….and southern. In my 40s and still recovering from my fundie upbringing in which God is far away in heaven, deciding if I’m good enough to earn more gold starts on the chart.
Help!!
Oh, I’m feeling like I definitely need to read this book! Sounds like it could contain a few “holy 2x4s” (as my friend Tina and I call those nudges from God) for me.
I guess begging wont help, heh. I thought for a long time that I wasn’t “good” enough to read this book, thinking it was something completely other than what it is, but now I know a little better. If I could win, great. Eventually I will get it. Thanks for the chance!
I would appreciate the opportunity to read this book. I want to know of grace.
Anita
This book has been on my list since the Nester had her book party! I’d love to add it to my nightstand!
This is just what I needed today! I have been dealing with a lot of heavy things lately and feeling very anxious. Though the good girl me will tell you it’s all good:)
I would really love to read this book. Rural Women Rock!
Ohoh! I almost picked this book up the other day! I do hope to read it.
oh! yes, please. =)
I’m a good girl…. in the midst of being unwoven ..
Martyrdom is no longer my kindgom. I need a good dose of Grace to set me Good Girl free.
Thank you for always making me look deeper.
How can I convince you that I need to be the one who wins that book? Thanks for offering it.
Oooo, I’d love a new read – especially one on grace! =)
I love your blog! And I’ve been thinking about buying this book! 🙂
Sounds very interesting….would love to read it!
This is on my wish list … my good girl needs an intervention! 😉
Would love to read this book. Thanks for the opportunity.
This is so weird. Our Sunday School study this past Sunday was on this very topic! then my Tuesday morning devotion was on same topic! i think I need to read this book!
I would love to read this book!
This book looks fantastic! Thank you for sharing!
This is on my ‘want to read in 2012’ list!
This book sounds like it could answer a lot of questions I have about being a good girl.
I have read Emily’s blog for the past year and would love to win the book! Thanks for the opportunity to plug into a wellspring of love and knowledge for the “good girl” in me.
This looks and sounds like a book that I should read, really. I so much love your blog and following along with your life. I feel like we are old lost friends. Please throw my name in the hat. I don’t have a blog, but I so enjoy yours. WMoss
i am guilty as charged and can’t wait to read this-it’s on my list!
Would love to win a copy! P.s. love your updated header!
I just started following Emily’s blog, Chatting At The Sky, last month & have been meaning to get her book. Thanks for the opportunity to win a copy, Edie. Blessings!
Sounds like a life-changing read. 🙂
I’ve heard such great things about this book. Thanks for a chance to win.
I would LOVE to have this book. As it’s become clear to me that I consistently fall very short of the standards I set for myself as a mother (also as a wife, friend, human being, but mother is the big one), I have noticed something else change too: Jesus and his Gospel has become far sweeter to me than ever before. I think this is because for the first time, I’ve realized how much I need a savior. Of course I’ve needed this all along, but I know it in a different way now. I feel like this is what Emily is talking about…
I’m interested! Thanks!
Would love to read this book! I too can relate to the “good girl” label…it’s exasperating being her!
Oh I just love Emily!!!! She is amazing!! I wish I could read this….but I told Paige when she wrote about this wonderful book that I need to wait for the “Grace for the bad girl” edition. Having a child out of wedlock automatically makes you a bad girl I guess. 🙂 Love you and counting down the days sweet friend!!! 30 more days!! xoxo
I don’t take a reccomendation from you lightly-I want to read Emily’s book:)
Sounds like a good one. Does it come in the Kindle/Nook version?
So very thankful for grace!
Wow this sounds like a fabulous book – one I know I need to read rather than want to. Thanks for the opportunity Edie.
Wow! I would love to read this book! I am your classic good girl that struggles with God’s grace. Thanks Edie!
Great book!!! LOVED it!!!
Yes, yes, yes. My “good girl” almost made me have a nervous breakdown about 6 months ago. I was pleasing everyone around doing what they expected of me, but not pleasing the Lord first above all else. This book sounds like such a truth telling account. Can’t wait to check it out.
I am a “good girl” so I am intrigued.
Would love a copy!!
Would love to read this book!!
I really want to read this book. I think I need it!
I would love to read this book!!
I would love this book! I am totally intrigued.
Good girl syndrome and a heap load of guilt when I can’t reach the good girl standards have been a struggle all my life. God’s grace is unfathomable and I feel unworthy of it. I am continuously in a competition with myself to attain this status and forever failing miserably. I would love a chance to win this awesome book. Either way it is on my Amazon wish list. If I don’t win I’ll buy it through your link and help fluff up your Starbucks fund.
Hugs
This book looks like a great read! I am intrigued by your post and would love a copy 🙂
I’ve had this book in my reader sites before it even was available! I KNOW I must read this. What have I been waiting for??!
I have been a life-time student at the school of “try hard” with a masters in People Pleasing!
This sounds like such a great book! It would be fun to win…although if I don’t, I’ll probably pick it up anyway 😉
Sounds like a book so many of us can relate to. I’d love to read it!
I have been waiting for this book to come out! So excited…heading over to Amazon now girl!
I’m intrigued . . . If I don’t win the book, I’ll likely pick up a copy anyway 🙂
I’m so looking forward to reading this book…whether I win it or buy it. Of course, I’m hoping I win it 😉
EEEEeeee! I’ve been meaning to pick up a copy of this book for a while!
Emily’s book has been on my reading list for ages… I am a chronic “good girl,” desperate to change. This book sounds exactly like what I need!
Wow! What an incredible topic!!! I haven’t seen a book like this before, but I think its something that so many women struggle with! Can’t wait to read it!
One of the best books I’ve read in years. Emily has entered an area nobody has gone and I’m so thankful.
NEED this book! Thanks for the giveaway!!
Jen xo
I love a good giveaway.
I love winning books! Thanks for this giveaway, the topic is just where I’m at.
I so need this book right now!! I am such a “good girl” trying to raise “good kids” it’s about to kill me:)!!!
I have had this on my “To Read” list for a while. Maybe this will be my chance!!!
I’ve been hearing about this book and have been very intrigued by it. Thanks for doing a giveaway that I may have a chance to win it!!
I’ve heard so much about this book. Thanks for the chance to read it by winning it. Lovely!
aliciahedge(at)hotmail(dot)com
This sounds like an AMAZING book that everyone needs to read…I would love to win a copy…
Thanks for sharing it!
This sounds like just the book I have been searching for! I just got back from being on the mission field for six months, and now receiving my MBA. Im trying so hard to meet up to the exceptions people have of me “coming off the field” and do this grad school thing perfectly.. of course for the “glory of God”… but maybe my expectation of perfection is more of a self-righteous thing where I am seeking the glory too.. hence.. the anxiety. Oh, the deep heartache and sin of being a “good girl”! I would love to win a copy!
I’ve been wanting to read this!!
I would love to have another copy. I bought mine, but would give one away if I won.
Would LOVE to read this – Thanks for a great giveaway!
Yep! That’s me. Preacher’s daughter = such a GOOD girl.
Heard about this from Nester and would love to read it! Sounds like a good one!!
I would love to read this book! Thanks for posting. jaxbabies@gmail.com
Sounds like something I need to read. Thank you.
i guess i never thought about what i was doing then as “the good girl” inside or the “do-good” demons. i was trying to “manufacture” as emily put it, my environments with excessive purging of my closets, constantly spending money to redecorate thinking that was what i needed to fill that hole inside, i to had a need to “look good” on the outside while inside i was dying. emily said most of the girls she talked to wern’t dealing with something like alcohol, but i was. i was hugging the toilet up to 12 times a day with my “friend” i struggled so hard to let go of- bulemia. that on top of many other behaviors that were causing anxiety inf my life. i had a wonderful husband and two beautiful children, so why wasn’t i satisfied? because i didn’t have Jesus. he eventually did rescue me from my despair and now my heart goes out to all women, christian and non, that feel, because of society, that we need to be super women. Jesus really does give you rest! i felt as though the whole world had been lifted off my shoulders and that now i could be transparent.
can’t wait to read this one – thanks!
can’t wait to read this one – thanks!
I have been wanting to read this book since the Nester through Emily her book signing party but I’ve been too afraid to read it. Would love to read this and then pass it on to my 2 nieces who are having trouble with going off to college to pursue their dreams or stay home to help their newly single mother. They want to be “Good Girl’s”.
Thanks for the giveaway … I want to get my hands on this book. Can’t wait to hear you Edie at the Pearl Event in just a month!
I’ve had this book on my Wishlist on Amazon for weeks!
Oh GOODness – do I need this book? I need this as much as Edie wears boots!!!
I’ve wondered about this idea,,,and am glad that you have read it and that it will bring relief to many of us
I SO need this book. Please pick me! 🙂
What’s wrong with being a good girl?
(I’m so good that I’m telling you that I have ulterior motives and maybe you won’t read this part and be tricked into thinking “that poor soul needs this book for sure).
Sounds wonderful : )
I’m friends with leedsracer, who sent me to this link, so if i win, i’ll think about letting her borrow it. 😉
This book kind of frightens me, but let’s see what happens. Thanks, Edie!
This one has been recommended to me, and I have been hoping to read it. 🙂 Thanks for the chance!
Oh how I want this book! I NEED this book. It’s my first time visiting your blog. Came to it by way of your cabinet re-do..ha. But wound up at your post for today. I’ve heard so many great things about the book just haven’t seen it to purchase. Really hope I win….:)
I have heard so much about this book…would love to read it–and grow!
sounds like a much needed read!!
Hi Edie…
Sounds like a book I would like to read and share as well.
Didn’t think it would be my cup of tea. Watched the video of the author introducing herself and what her book is about…brought tears to my eyes. Never judge a book by its cover is so true
I would love to read this book. Thanks for the giveaway!
I have this book on my list for 2012! Would love to win a copy!
I’ve been so wanting to read this!!
pick me! love your blog! =]
This book looks wonderful. I would love to read it.
Lynn G.
I would love to win this! Sounds like a good book study for my mom’s group.
I would love to win this book. Sounds like something I could really use right now
The book has caught my attention at the bookstore. I need to read it!
Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World got me through my last batch of PPD, maybe this will help with the one I’m expecting next week!
I would love to read this book–I think I could use it!
I have been wanting to read this!
“The darker the room, the harsher the light usually seems.” Edie, you have quite a way with words and insight too … waiting for your book to be published. In the meantime I’d love to read Grace for the Good Girl. Thanks for the having this give-away.
I’d love to read it!
Reading this book has been on my “to-do” list since I saw the beautiful pictures of the book signing party. Emily’s description of her book was so heartfelt and the content is something so many women live with daily. Would love to win!! Thanks for the opportunity~I’ll read it either way! Have a blessed weekend~we might finally see some of the white stuff in TN! 🙂
Wow! Sounds powerful. Just the few nuggets your mentioned affected me. I too am amazed by the mystery. Thanks for the chance.
Thanks for offering an opportunity to receive a copy of this book. It sounds very interesting!
Would love to read it!
As a recovering good girl, coming to understand the glory of his grace I have been very curious to read this book. If I don’t win I will try to remember to go through your affiliate link so that you can get some coffee! 🙂
I would LOVE to read this book!
Ahhh this book sounds lovely. I’d love your extra copy. 😉
Here I am, 70 years old, and still a “good girl”. It does not work !
Sure would like some help. I would love to have the book !
Thanks
Thanks for this post. I didn’t realize that this is me until reading and watching video clip. Would love to read this book!
I would love to read this…Emily is after all speaking to me right?, ;D I think there’s many of us caught in that same place and not sure how to move on.
Sounds like a book I’d love to read. Thank you for posting.
this sounds like a good book. it’s going on my list. thanks for sharing. and thanks for the giveaway. =)
There are many of us “Martha’s” out there all trying to do good to make everything perfect. The husband, the kids, church functions, school functions. etc.. thank God we have His Grace and Mercy because we would endlessly fail with out it.
I’m a bad girl. Met God’s grace early on and i’ve lived richly in it since I was 18. But, somehow…I’ve managed to raise a good girl. A black and white, hard on herself, hard on everyone, judiciously obedient, STRESS puppy. She’s been 30 since the 3rd grade. God love her, she’s a pharisee. We can’t figure out how we should parent her sometimes…she parents herself. Well, this year the good girl fell…and OH my, good girls fall hard…and don’t easily recover when they’ve dissappointed God, self, family…at 18 my dear daughter is learning that she’s just like the rest of us. And while she fought the humility it requires to admit failure, she’s finally trying to stand back up and let others doctor her skinned knees. Oh it’s so much harder than it was for me at 18–I needed mercy and I knew it. She just realized why she needs a savior.
Not sure if this contest has closed yet or not. I keep seeing this book around different blog sites and my interest has peaked!
I would love to win this book for me and my two good girl sisters.
I have wanted this book like 4-ever. I have enjoyed & been inspired into a more meaningful life because of…Emily & her “Chatting in the Sky” http://www.chattingatthesky.com/ She is amazing!
I have been wanting to read this! I have a long list of girls to pass it to when I’m finished!
Emily is speaking to me. I will read the book regardless! I love the cover too :).
Watching and listening to Emily, I thought of my daughter. She is that perfect good girl – always has been…yet doesn’t ever feel quite good enough. Now at 34 I watch her still struggle with that….though very privately…probably only her mother knows that. But then, I saw not my daughter…but me. I NEED to read her book…I need to believe it.
hmmm …. wow, does that sound like something I need to read. Like stat!
I have wanted this book forever and some how keep forgetting to buy it! I was telling a friend about it in church on Sunday and then come her today and there it is again! I was going to just click over and buy it and then saw that you were giving one away…so the spendthrift in me will wait until you announce the winner…if it’s not me, then I will click over and buy it! 🙂
I would LOVE to read this book someday. I will have to get my hands on it some way or another, (maybe this is the way 🙂 ) I think it would benefit so many to read it.
This sounds like a great book for the girls in our church youth.
I know some Good Girls, including myself, who could benefit from this book.
Such a small, sweet world god has created! I found your blog several months ago. I recognized Emily and had to determine how and why! I’m like that. So, I finally discovered that she is at a nearby church I visited once with a friend! I love how God intertwined my love I’f design to finding you, to finding her and her ministry. I feel like I’ve gained 2 new friends! Would love to read her book!
How wonderful Kari! Isn’t blog world so cool? Much love to you:) edie
Such a small, sweet world god has created! I found your blog several months ago. I recognized Emily and had to determine how and why! I’m like that. So, I finally discovered that she is at a nearby church I visited once with a friend! I love how God intertwined my love I’f design to finding you, to finding her and her ministry. I feel like I’ve gained 2 new friends! Would love to read her book!
Oooooo!!! Did you pick a winner yet? Pick me! Pick me! I would love to read this book and have it for my girls! I was a good girl all my life and finally, FINALLY understood grace just a year or two ago. And Praise God, He is changing my life and my parenting and my friendships and EVERYTHING. That’s why I love your blog so much, Edie. It’s like water for my too-long-parched soul. (I found you through the lovely Darlene, who we attend co-op with, and whose design blog I also love.) I linger long here, just so you know. Mostly when I should be doing laundry, or washing dishes… True confessions. =)
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